Embracing Your Truth: Beyond the Need for External Validation
You've been there, haven't you?
A burning conviction in your gut, a certainty that's as clear as the midday sun. Yet, someone challenges it, doubts it, tries to steer you away from it. And you wonder, "Why do I feel this compulsion to prove myself? What's the real gain here?" The age-old dance of wanting to be "right" by all means is familiar to us all. But let's dive deep, peel back the layers, and truly understand what drives this urge. And more importantly, what can you do about it?
The Human Quest for Validation
Humans are, by nature, social creatures. Your ancestors depended on each other for survival. Being ostracised or perceived as wrong could mean a dire fate. So, seeking approval is almost hardwired into you. But here's the catch: it's not about being right. It's about feeling validated. This is what you actually are seeking by your attempts of. proving "you are right".
Imagine spending hours preparing for a debate. You scour sources, plan your approach, and engage in an intense back-and-forth. At the end of it all, you emerge victorious. A fleeting sense of triumph washes over you. But soon, the realisation hits. Was it truly worth the energy and time? Just for the fleeting feeling of being 'right'? Moreover, is the person in front of you truly convinced of your 'rightness' or it just agree with you just for the sake of peace of mind?
The Cost of Being Right
There's a price to pay for that need for validation. Hours of research, stress, strategizing, and sometimes strained relationships. If you don't hear the approval, does it mean you're wrong? No! Your truth remains unchanged, with or without external validation. When you finally realise that you will find peace and joy in every conversation.
Think about it this way. Two friends, Alex and Sam, have a disagreement about a movie's interpretation. Alex believes it's about the pursuit of happiness, while Sam sees it as a commentary on societal norms. They argue for hours, bringing up examples and trying to convince the other. But what if they simply appreciated each other's perspectives and moved on? They would have saved time and maintained their friendship's harmony.
Joyful Tips for Embracing Your Truth
Practice Silent Confidence
Just because someone doesn't see your point doesn't diminish its value. Hold onto your belief without the need for loud declarations. It's like wearing a precious gem inside a pocket. You know it's there, shining, even if the world doesn't.
Embrace Diverse Perspectives
Every individual's viewpoint is a result of their unique experiences. Respecting their perspective doesn't mean discarding yours. It simply broadens your horizon and enriches your understanding.
Exercise Time - The Perspective Shift
Pick a topic you feel strongly about. Now, write down three different viewpoints on this topic. They can be completely opposite to yours. The aim? To understand that multiple truths can coexist without diminishing your own. It's a powerful way to build empathy and strengthen your inner conviction.
Rad's Toolbox for a Resilient Mindset
Remember, you're not alone on this journey. If you ever feel the need for guidance or support, I'm here for you. Through my mindset coaching sessions, we can navigate these challenges together. And as a reminder: I am building an exclusive community on Facebook #CanDoMindset. However, not just anyone gets into it. It's an exclusive safe space for folks like you, dedicated to supporting each other on this transformative journey. So, if you vibe with me join #CanDoMindset Community today.
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Stay grounded, embrace your truth, and remember, the journey to a resilient mindset is ever-evolving. Here's to your unwavering belief and the courage to stand by it. 🌟
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With love and blessings,
Rad - Your Mindset Coach
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